Mary Gilmore, Staff Writer
Being a Resident Advisor at SUNY Oneonta has become one of the most fulfilling and steady parts of my college experience. When I first accepted the position, I knew it came with responsibilities. Conducting rounds, long duty nights, office hours, documenting incidents, and programming are all the basics of the job, but I didn’t yet understand how deeply the role would shape my sense of purpose and belonging on campus. Over time, the job has become a constant in my life, something that grounds me even as everything else in college shifts from semester to semester.
At its core, the RA role is about community. Building trust is essential, and I’ve learned that authenticity goes a long way. One anonymous RA described their approach perfectly, “I build trust with my residents by trying to relate to them. I work in a freshman building as a sophomore, so in our first meeting I told them that I’m only a year older than them, trying to connect with them in that way. I also am just an open person, I say hi when I see them around campus, and I talk to them like neighbors.” That openness, showing residents that we’re here to support them, not supervise them, creates a foundation for real connection.
Programming is one of the most enjoyable parts of the job. RA’s design events that bring people together, whether they’re educational or just for fun. One RA shared that their favorite program was their very first one, “We had a competition to see who could make the best boat out of tinfoil, popsicle sticks, and straws. I think it went well because everyone was so social, it was early in the semester, and people were willing to meet and mingle.” Programs like that capture the spirit of what we do, creating moments where strangers become friends.
Some of the most meaningful experiences happen outside of structured events. One RA recalled staying up until 3 a.m. talking with a resident who later became one of their closest friends. “It wasn’t a serious situation, we were just chatting, but it created so many new connections for both of us.” I’ve had moments like that too, where a simple conversation becomes something that stays with me long after.
The job also offers incredible opportunities for personal growth. I’ve become more confident, more patient, and more capable of handling difficult conversations. Another RA put it well, “Being personable is my greatest strength in the job. Our role is to help residents, and it’s easiest to do that when you’re approachable.” The RA position pushes you to develop leadership skills, communication strategies, and a sense of responsibility that carries into every part of life.
And yes, the benefits matter too. The free room makes a real difference, and the professional experience looks great on a resume. As one RA said, “It’s a great learning opportunity, helps develop leadership skills, and sets you up for your future.”
Honestly for me, the biggest benefit is how enjoyable and grounding the job is. I get to be part of people’s stories. I get to help shape a community. I get to be a steady presence in a place that’s constantly changing.
If someone asked me whether they should apply to be an RA at SUNY Oneonta, I’d tell them that if you want a role that’s meaningful, community‑centered, and genuinely rewarding, this is it. It’s a job that gives back in ways you don’t expect, and it becomes a part of your life in the best possible way.
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